Scar: Family and honor or individual family member?

The story titled Scar narrated by An-Mei HSU. In this story is about a little girl name An-Mei that is living with her Popo or Grandmother, her aunt, her uncle, and little brother. While she is living with them her grandmother tells her that if she ever motioned her mother’s name or any part of her mother he would have a certain curse that will ruin her life. Basically her grandmother is threatening her that if she mentioned her mother’s name or something she wants to know she would be cursed.

“In those days a ghost was anything we were forbidden to talk about So i knew Popo wanted me to forget my mother on purpose, and this is how i came to remember nothing of her... But i often heard storied of ghost who tried to take children away, especially strong willed little girls who were disobedient... All my life, Popo scared me,”(Tan 42).

This was basically what happened in the story. Her grandmother tried to make her forget her own mother just because she married a new man and forced to leave her home and her children.

Now, the prompt said how do you think An-mei and her mother would respond to "Family and honor should take priority over the rights of the individual family member."? Well An-mei and her mother would probably be neutral because it is hard to look for evidence for An-mei’s thought of family honor versus an individual family member. Ever since An-mei was a little girl, her Popo told her that her mother is a disgrace to the family and that her grandmother has been telling stories about disobeying the family that a ghost will capture her. So it is hard for her to choose whether to listen to her grandmother of listen to herself. It is a win lose decision. In the other hand, her mother wanted to come back to the family, she believed that the family’s honor should come first. After being kicked out of the house for a long time, she wanted to return home. She did anything to come back home. In the end she was there with her mother,

“This is how a daughter honors her mother. It is shou so deep it is in your bones. The pain of the flesh is nothing. The pain you must forget. Because sometimes that is the only way to remember what is in your bones. You must peel off your skin, and that of your mother, and her mother before her. Until, there is nothing. No scar, no skin, no flesh,” (Tan 48).

Family is important to her and nothing else and all she wanted was to be forgiven. It just proves that family is important to An-Mei’s mother because even though she was a disgrace to the family she was there with her mother as she dies in her death bed. Family honor is important to An-mei’s mother and a little bit from An-mei. In the end family honor wins rather an individual family member.